Brothers, have you found yet that we will never find a ‘perfect’ woman? It’s because she only exists in our heads! Let me talk some Bible to the Brothers. According to The Bible it’s our job as men to help our woman become the perfect woman for us, which means she initially comes incomplete!
Does she recognize that ‘incompleteness’ and is she willing to let you complete her the same way she is assigned to complete you as a man? Let’s see…
God’s Assignment for Men is to love her with the Love of God, to protect/cover her, sacrifice for her, provide for her, teach her the Word of God and to cultivate her by bringing out the best in her; to provide an environment where the fullness of her femininity can flourish like a tender plant unfolds in full bloom in God’s timing and in God’s way:
“Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word” Ephesians 5:25-26
The question is…can you do this and will she allow you to do this? Truth is: we can’t lead a woman into something we’re NOT…so it’s all about walking the walk of Christ-likeness before talking the talk. Then, with Christ as our model and a willing mind, we as Men can do this. NOW, will she let us?
A Godly woman who understands your role as God’s man who expects this from you might let you…depends on her understanding of her proper God-given role and her willingness to be covered, be loved, be led, be taught the Word of God, be provided for and for the best in her to be brought out (cultivated) by you.
These things are to be examined EARLY! I spoke on a Man having his vision and purpose clearly outlined before seeking a woman and her need to see it in written format before getting heavily involved with each other in an earlier post.
Your job is to QUALIFY her with the above criteria ahead of time before receiving her as your Woman, and her job is to do the same with you…that is if you want God to bless the union! I’ll get into her proper qualifying of you as a Man in another post, but she can learn something about that right here too…
How well does she fit into the dream and purpose for your life? How does she respond to the written outline of your vision and purpose? Can she see herself going where you’re going by faith and outside of her comfort zone? Can she recognize her own God-given purpose being fulfilled within your purpose as a HELPER to you?
How much resistance or cooperation do you get from her while you pursue your destiny? Brothers, we’ve got some WORK to do and if she’s not there to cooperate with you and complete you she’ll compete with you…there is no middle ground!
The reason we as Men will never find the perfect woman is because it’s our job to help shape and mold her into that level of maturity and usefulness in the fulfillment of our God-given Assignment by leading her and cultivating her the same way Jesus Christ does His own Bride, The Church:
“That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.” Ephesians 5:27
Just like some church folk have a religious connection to God without a true and intimate connection, some women expect the blessings and benefits of the affiliation but refuse the discipleship. Some are caught up in feministic gender-role reversal and want to steer you like Jezebel controlled King Ahab.
Some are masters at shape-shifting; appearing humble, submissive and willing to be led and taught God’s way in the beginning but their extreme arrogance and fear of losing control, and the ways of their worldly independence eventually show up.
The words we receive determine mindsets and strongholds; words well-received and meditated on are the words which grow to full fruition in our lives. FORGET how good they look and how sweet they sound…what are they saying?
You can always tell what a person has been listening to, watching, meditating on, believing and receiving in their heart, and the philosophies and mindsets of the people they hold in highest esteem by their actions, speech and surrounding circumstances because “We ARE what we eat!”
Our job as Men is to determine a woman’s level of cooperation and willingness to being your woman God’s way ahead of time. She may be perfect for you in the beginning, but will she be at the end of the day?
These are the days where deception is at an all time high in human history just like The Bible predicted in Matthew 24, and Jesus put the burden of responsibility on us not to be deceived and preached the entire chapter starting with the words: “Take heed that no man deceive you.” (Matthew 24:3) No man includes wo-man!
If it sounds like I’m being harsh about women…I AM, but know who it is that I’m talking about. I’m saying these things because this is the day and time we are living in right now; I’m referring to the same foreign women King Solomon’s mother warned him to stay away from but who eventually took him down, and caused him to lose stewardship of the kingdom God entrusted him with.
I’m talking about women in The Church who are impostors; goats among sheep, tares among wheat…not the Precious and Truly Virtuous Women of God who you’re looking for and who are secure in their identity and Christ-likeness! ♥♥♥
© 2014 – David Jordan Dill