It’s been said we are the sum total of our experiences and the past is the best predictor of our future:
“Yeah, you say this and that Dreamer, but your track record says something else.”
Sound familiar? Identify those who oppose your God-given purpose and destiny!
Those who dwell on your past without considering your current state and future purpose haven’t made peace with or reconciled their own past and are STUCK there. Are You stuck there too?
It’s that nasty guilt-shame-condemnation mindset which locks focus on our failures and foolishness of the past and our current feebleness and frailties in order to hinder our ultimate destiny in Christ.
Our past alone doesn’t shape and mold our future; the way we PERCEIVE our past and whether lessons have been RECEIVED do. God’s Spirit said: “Let THIS mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus…”
When we recognize our new, unearned and UNSTOPPABLE identity in who God is shaping and molding us to be, we’ll resist the devil, he will flee, and the fullness of God’s Assignment for our lives will be fulfilled.
One’s ability to recognize and SHUN the voice of guilt, shame and condemnation determines one’s future. Who’s WORDS are spinning round and round in your head?”
“Brethren, I do not count myself to have apprehended; but one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead,
I press toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.
Therefore let us, as many as are mature, have this mind; and if in anything you think otherwise, God will reveal even this to you.” Philippians 3:13-15 NKJV
Brothers, why should a woman make herself vulnerable in the presence of your superior physical strength and trust you to cover her spiritually, emotionally and physically? If she recognizes her God-given assignment as being a Man’s helper, why should she be a helper to YOU? Who are you and what do you really have to offer a Woman of God?
According to the original information found in the Owners Manual from The Manufacturer of Humanity, while the male model of Man is the head of the female model and family, he’s not at the top of the family; he’s at the BOTTOM.
God did not start the human race with both a man and a woman…He first created one man named Adam from the dust of the earth; the first human model of Man God breathed into the nostrils of was a MALE.
Like all good contractors, God began Humanity with a strong foundation designed and responsible for carrying the weight of the whole building.
“And the LORD God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living soul.” Genesis 2:7
Human existence is about The King, His Kingdom and His Royal Family; God’s original purpose for creating the human entity was to extend His Kingdom here on earth.
The Devil knows this better than we do….this is why the devil works so hard to corrupt the man with the hedonism of pornography, drugs, alcohol and a party-lifestyle.
The Foundational KEY to God’s strategy for ruling earth is by COLONIZING Heaven (recreating the heavenly atmosphere) here on earth through humanity, and God began His plan of dominion through the Male-Man.
That’s why the devil seeks to use women to usurp men’s authority (Eve, Delilah, Jezebel, etc.), to cause division and competition between men and women, and why the devil seeks to confuse both genders on their sexuality in order to reverse gender roles in the family and society at large!
Where did God’s Plan go wrong? After entertaining snake-talk, Eve brought the forbidden fruit to Adam for him to eat:
“And when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was pleasant to the eyes, and a tree to be desired to make one wise, she took of the fruit thereof, and did eat,and gave also unto her husband with her; and he did eat.” Genesis 3:6
When all was said and done, God’s issue with The Fall began with ADAM…not Eve. Adam committed high treason with what he’d been entrusted. Adam’s adherence and loyalty to Eve’s words of disobedience which originated from Satan was God’s issue. The Fall was not complete until Adam ate also.
“And unto Adam he said, Because thou hast hearkened unto the voice of thy wife , and hast eaten of the tree, of which I commanded thee, saying, Thou shalt not eat of it: cursed is the ground for thy sake; in sorrow shalt thou eat of it all the days of thy life; Thorns also and thistles shall it bring forth to thee; and thou shalt eat the herb of the field; In the sweat of thy face shalt thou eat bread, till thou return unto the ground; for out of it wast thou taken: for dust thou art, and unto dust shalt thou return.” Genesis 3:17-19
Does this mean men should not listen to women? Women’s Godly and virtuous input is truly priceless. We must recognize and properly discern the spirit behind the voice of the one who’s talking to us!
Every single one of us need to know and understand God’s Words well enough to recognize words that oppose God’s Words. God is holding MEN responsible first for failures within The Royal Family of His Kingdom!
Where is Adam’s protest to the serpent’s words which opposed God’s Words? Where is Adam’s rebuke of the serpent and the command to cease and desist? Where is Adam’s protection of Eve or a reminder to Eve about what God said?
And if Adam didn’t quite understand the sneaky subtil underhanded plot that was taking place by a serpent Adam himself named who was having a conversation with Adam’s woman in which words that opposed God’s Words were being introduced to her right before his very eyes…where is Adam’s inquiry to God about it all?
Where is Adam’s request to God on how to interpret it all? Where is Adam’s request from God about what he should do in that situation?
If Adam was in doubt, where is Adam’s discussion with God: “Lord, I told Eve not to do this like you told me, she did it anyway…what should I do?” WE SEE NONE OF THAT, and the sin was not complete (God did not approach them both about that sin) until after Adam ate.
If it sounds like I’m being hard on Adam…please understand what I’m saying. Adam was SINLESS and still messed this up! This let’s us know any one of us as Men wouldn’t have done any better (including ME) so what’s being said is not to condemn Adam.
This was the very first time in history where opposing words to what God said entered human ears. God ordained it so because He gave Mankind autonomy (freedom to choose). God didn’t make robots or drones; He wants what any of us would want…
God wants to be adored out of our recognition of His uncommon virtue. He doesn’t want us loving Him because we were forced to by being our only choice!
Words that oppose God’s Words HAD to be introduced to humanity, and out of sheer curiosity (God knows how He made us) we typically want to know whatever we can know…Satan’s lying words promising something better than what God said sounded good and enticed them into the wrong choice just like he still makes us fall with the same ol’ okie-doke today!!
On THIS side of The Cross of Jesus Christ, we know God is not a God of condemnation, and that God had a plan all along to implement His rich Love, Mercy and Grace… so this is not to beat up Adam!
At this point it’s simply OURS to learn every lesson we can from The First Fall of Man and to make full use of hindsight according to God’s revelation. We as MEN need to go back to The Beginning of The Owner’s Manual of Humanity to understand who and what God originally made us to be!
Don’t worry about what the women do Brothas! If you be who you’re supposed to be in Christ, the right woman will be a helper to you in your God-given Assignment; she will find fulfillment in her God-given Assignment as a helper to you the way God designed her to be…but it all starts with YOU. Be Who You’re Supposed To Be In Christ.
The LAST thing a Man needs is a Woman! Adam was in God’s presence and being about God’s business BEFORE God created Eve from Adam’s rib…Amen!
God gave Adam 6 things to do before He said “it’s not good for the man to be alone” and created Eve:
1) Be in God’s Presence—> “In Thy presence is fulness of joy” Psalm 16:11
2) Worship God (you were created for praise and worship; true self image is found in Your Creator)
3) WORK—> Be a provider, and fulfill your God-given Assignment
4) Be a cultivator (one that brings out the best in everything and everyone around you)
5) Guard the garden: Protect (you were built with bigger muscles and stronger bone mass to protect, not to bully or abuse)
6) Hear, Understand & Obey God’s Word
After God presented Eve to Adam, Adam’s Assignment included:
7) Teaching her and his family (instruct, correct, etc.)
8) Leading by example with gentleness
The Owner’s Manual has all the original information we need. If a man can’t do these 8 things, it’s good for that man to be ALONE! Women who know who they are in Christ need to filter men accordingly, and likewise with men.
Some women don’t care whether or not if a man is in tune with God and don’t care whether he is about God’s business this way…Wrong woman Brotha! But just remember, it’s hard for a REAL woman to respect a man who doesn’t know what he was created for and who knows less Bible than she does!
God’s plan for humanity is:
1) To colonize Heaven on earth,
2) To exercise dominion over evil,
3) To make crooked paths straight (undo Satan’s damage),
4) To represent God’s righteousness and love in this dark world,
5) To evangelize the lost
It may seem like a daunting task to some, but that which God holds His Royal Family totally responsible for in this earth begins with MEN, and is totally achievable through a real, intimate and loving relationship with His Son Jesus Christ! ♥♥♥
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The Breadcrumb Trail of God’s Favor leads us where He wants us. Our presence is a seed. Wherever God wants His investment in us to flourish, He pours out Favor.
The butterfly finds provision in places he never could have still being a caterpillar, and he couldn’t become a butterfly without dying to his former nature and allowing for a miraculous transformation in the cocoon.
If Favor isn’t flowing like you want it to (that unsettled depression within lets us know), consider what dying to self means, letting God be God, and being transformed by the renewing of your mind in Christ. God isn’t finished with us yet! ♥♥♥
Never Enough is like a black hole in deep space that resides in people. Never Enough restlessly sucks in whatever it can, is never satisfied no matter what you do and gives nothing in return but empty promises and broken hearts.
Never Enough is silently vicious and can never be satisfied. Your very best will never be good enough for Never Enough. Never Enough has no true concept of being content with anything and is always seeking more, and more and more.
Never Enough is lack-conscious, meaning it is always focused on what’s lacking, what’s missing (glass half-empty mentality). Never Enough is fear driven, self-conscious, sin-conscious, paranoid and overly self-protective. Never Enough is overly critical, judgmental, domineering, controlling and opposes GRACE who is all about supply, progression and wholeness.
Never Enough is intelligent and brilliantly plots (flow charts) the processes necessary to take the maximum while giving the very least to the detriment of the unfortunate one Never Enough is connected to.
Never Enough loves to attach itself to grace-conscious individuals who don’t understand or recognize their virtue, and who don’t protect themselves well from Never Enough folk who SAY “thank you” but really are not appreciative.
Never Enough is a parasite that sucks it’s victim dry for as long as possible, and just like a parasite Never Enough is a master at stealth and shape-shifting in order to avoid detection.
Never Enough knows how to appear to be a friend, a helper, a giver of pleasure, a companion and a comrade while taking the best of one’s best and reciprocating toxicity, negativity, uncommitment, disloyalty, bitterness, manipulation (control-freakism) and instability.
Until such an one is DELIVERED from the demonic spirit of Never Enough that person is kryptonite! Never Enough will never change it’s nature, but the one harboring Never Enough can.
Pray and speak deliverance over that one’s life, but until then…love only from a distance, because God doesn’t impose on people’s freedom to choose and as long as that person is comfortable harboring ‘Never Enough’ and sees no need to change, he or she won’t. ♥♥♥
There’s nothing worst than being all hooked up and locked up with somebody who’s not committed to you, your destiny, your vision or your purpose! Talk about TORTURE?
Getting in is easy and pleasurable, but getting loose from a soul-tie involving the totality of your mind, will and emotions from that BEAUTIFUL tormentor is a long and painful struggle. Ask Sampson. Can you be set free? Yes, but when all is said and done you’ll wish you never had to be…
A person who is uncommitted to their own self CAN’T be fully committed to you; it’s impossible. If they’re not committed to their own best interests what makes you think they’ll be committed to yours? If you are committed yet you hook up with a person who is not committed to their own self, that person is likely to be envious or some other state of disagreement and contention with you.
The Lord said we would know folks by the fruit they bear. There’s a huge difference between judging somebody (condemnation) and inspecting fruit! Take your time Baby Brotha and Baby Sis…master the art of fruit inspection. ☺
Who and what are you uniting your mind, will and emotions (your soul) to? That other person is who they are, they can’t fully hide what or who they are but can you see them for what and who they are? When the SEX is over, the soul-tie is activated and THE TIE doesn’t stop!
One of the proper criteria for fruit inspection before purchasing is to examine one’s commitment to their own self. How can you tell if they’re committed to their own self? If they’re not committed to God they are NOT committed to their own true self. How do we know?
When God breathed into the nostrils of the first man He breathed His very essence, His Spirit into Adam…”and Adam became a living soul.” The essence of who we are is in God, and until we realize that we have no real clue as to who we are.
“For in him we live, and move, and have our being; as certain also of your own poets have said, For we are also his offspring.” Acts 17:28
A person who’s not committed to God is not committed to their own true self, and thus they can’t be fully committed to a mate or anything/anybody else…there will be a pattern of uncommitment in their life, and that’s why God said not to be unequally yoked.
The only way you can truly tell if a person is committed to God is if YOU are truly committed to God. Then and only then will you be able to recognize who IS and who ISN’T committed to God.
Whoever God has for you IS for you, and your true soul-mate ain’t goin’ nowhere! Take your time, pray and think. ♥♥♥
The purpose of this post is to eliminate FRUSTRATION in a woman, because if a man gives her frustration she’ll incubate it; she’ll give life to it, multiply it and give him hell in return! You both deserve better
Ladies, I’m going to deal with the men in another post. This one’s for you…it’s all up to you to make sure the man you’re considering to be with has a PLAN that he can clearly articulate for his life.
It doesn’t matter how attracted you are to him, how compatible you think you are or how much your hormones are raging, if you get with a man who doesn’t have a plan for his life that he can clearly articulate to you on paper (or other written format)…you are MISSING one key ingredient as to whether you can STAY with that man.
It’s been said that knowledge is power, and God said His people are destroyed for a lack of knowledge. God created Eve to be a helper to Adam in the work God assigned Adam. If you’re going to do things God’s way and have Him join you together with the right man, being the Woman of God and the Queen that you are…you deserve to know what you will be helping your man do and become for the rest of your lives together BEFORE your first kiss!
You as a Woman absolutely must know whether you fit into that Man’s plan while you’re sober-minded, and before you get “drunk in love”… all wrapped up and into him physically and emotionally. This is critical qualifying criteria for you as a Woman. You might not like that Man’s plan, OR you might not be qualified to fit in his plan. He should be checking you out this way as well and if he’s not, he is unwise!
Here’s why: That Man you’re drooling over (forgive my playfulness) he has been assigned by God to solve a specific problem in the earth, and if that man doesn’t know what that plan is, if he’s not fully committed to God’s plan for his life…he can’t properly evaluate, qualify or determine what woman best suits him as a helper! Is this making sense to you?
This is very serious business and you as a woman need to avoid a precarious situation at all cost. He not only has no clue as to where he’s going, he has no clue who he’s supposed to be with…and he’s choosing to be with you while being ignorant, incomplete and possibly while being in rebellion to God.
He’s ignorant because he doesn’t know what he needs to know in order to be the leader God assigned him to be. He’s incomplete as a Man of God until he receives that assignment and begins carrying it out! If God has shown him that Assignment and he is procrastinating or flat out refused to fulfill it, then that man is in a state of disobedience…yet he’s trying to be your man!
Think about that real long and hard, because he’s not…You as a Godly woman can’t be a helper to a man who is ignorant of or in rebellion to his God-given assignment.
Ladies, if you get with a man without a plan it’ll be like getting hired by a company and then being assigned nothing to do! Flow chart that thing all the way out! He’ll only FRUSTRATE YOU and you’ll end up scrambling to find something else to do. His insecurities are likely to rise to the surface even more then, gender role reversal and all kinds of STRIFE will be the end result.
That whole scenario is a hindrance to YOUR God-given destiny Ladies. You need a Man with a plan! You need a man who’s plan compatibly matches your plan. Otherwise, that relationship will be OVER before it even begins or it will be unfulfilled. ♥♥♥
Brothers, have you found yet that we will never find a ‘perfect’ woman? It’s because she only exists in our heads! Let me talk some Bible to the Brothers. According to The Bible it’s our job as men to help our woman become the perfect woman for us, which means she initially comes incomplete!
Does she recognize that ‘incompleteness’ and is she willing to let you complete her the same way she is assigned to complete you as a man? Let’s see…
God’s Assignment for Men is to love her with the Love of God, to protect/cover her, sacrifice for her, provide for her, teach her the Word of God and to cultivate her by bringing out the best in her; to provide an environment where the fullness of her femininity can flourish like a tender plant unfolds in full bloom in God’s timing and in God’s way:
“Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word” Ephesians 5:25-26
The question is…can you do this and will she allow you to do this? Truth is: we can’t lead a woman into something we’re NOT…so it’s all about walking the walk of Christ-likeness before talking the talk. Then, with Christ as our model and a willing mind, we as Men can do this. NOW, will she let us?
A Godly woman who understands your role as God’s man who expects this from you might let you…depends on her understanding of her proper God-given role and her willingness to be covered, be loved, be led, be taught the Word of God, be provided for and for the best in her to be brought out (cultivated) by you.
These things are to be examined EARLY! I spoke on a Man having his vision and purpose clearly outlined before seeking a woman and her need to see it in written format before getting heavily involved with each other in an earlier post.
Your job is to QUALIFY her with the above criteria ahead of time before receiving her as your Woman, and her job is to do the same with you…that is if you want God to bless the union! I’ll get into her proper qualifying of you as a Man in another post, but she can learn something about that right here too…
How well does she fit into the dream and purpose for your life? How does she respond to the written outline of your vision and purpose? Can she see herself going where you’re going by faith and outside of her comfort zone? Can she recognize her own God-given purpose being fulfilled within your purpose as a HELPER to you?
How much resistance or cooperation do you get from her while you pursue your destiny? Brothers, we’ve got some WORK to do and if she’s not there to cooperate with you and complete you she’ll compete with you…there is no middle ground!
The reason we as Men will never find the perfect woman is because it’s our job to help shape and mold her into that level of maturity and usefulness in the fulfillment of our God-given Assignment by leading her and cultivating her the same way Jesus Christ does His own Bride, The Church:
“That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.” Ephesians 5:27
Just like some church folk have a religious connection to God without a true and intimate connection, some women expect the blessings and benefits of the affiliation but refuse the discipleship. Some are caught up in feministic gender-role reversal and want to steer you like Jezebel controlled King Ahab.
Some are masters at shape-shifting; appearing humble, submissive and willing to be led and taught God’s way in the beginning but their extreme arrogance and fear of losing control, and the ways of their worldly independence eventually show up.
The words we receive determine mindsets and strongholds; words well-received and meditated on are the words which grow to full fruition in our lives. FORGET how good they look and how sweet they sound…what are they saying?
You can always tell what a person has been listening to, watching, meditating on, believing and receiving in their heart, and the philosophies and mindsets of the people they hold in highest esteem by their actions, speech and surrounding circumstances because “We ARE what we eat!”
Our job as Men is to determine a woman’s level of cooperation and willingness to being your woman God’s way ahead of time. She may be perfect for you in the beginning, but will she be at the end of the day?
These are the days where deception is at an all time high in human history just like The Bible predicted in Matthew 24, and Jesus put the burden of responsibility on us not to be deceived and preached the entire chapter starting with the words: “Take heed that no man deceive you.” (Matthew 24:3)No man includes wo-man!
If it sounds like I’m being harsh about women…I AM, but know who it is that I’m talking about. I’m saying these things because this is the day and time we are living in right now; I’m referring to the same foreign women King Solomon’s mother warned him to stay away from but who eventually took him down, and caused him to lose stewardship of the kingdom God entrusted him with.
I’m talking about women in The Church who are impostors; goats among sheep, tares among wheat…not the Precious and Truly Virtuous Women of God who you’re looking for and who are secure in their identity and Christ-likeness! ♥♥♥
Just about every Christian knows I Corinthians 13 as being The Love chapter in The Bible. Here, we get a clear view of what Love is and what Love is not, BUT can we see ourselves as being Love? When we do, we will chase fear out of our lives the same way light scatters darkness.
God is Love. He sees us as being one with Him in spite of our sins because of the finished work of His Son Jesus Christ. He sees us as being ONE with Him whether we realize our oneness in Him or not. He created us in His image and likeness, therefore we who believe are fully identified with God as being His Children of Love by His Grace, and not by Man’s faltering performance or works.
Since salvation itself is an identity issue and not a performance issue, all we as Believers need to do is grow in the understanding of our true identity with God’s own loving nature. Let us permanently set our minds to seeing ourselves as He sees us in our completed state by accepting and affirming that Christ-like nature.
I Corinthians 13:4-8a in the King James Version says:
“Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. Charity never faileth”
This exercise involves replacing the word “charity” or LOVE with “I AM” to program our sub-conscious and conscious minds with the true identity for our lives by verbally repeating and continuing to repeat:
“I AM LOVE: I am patient.I am kind.I do not envy.I do not boast.I am not proud.I am not rude.I am not self seeking.I am not easily angered.I keep no record of wrongs.I never fail.”
Jesus said in Mark 11:23 when we believe in our hearts and do not doubt, we will have what we say…literally! Amen.
This disciplinary exercise of verbal affirmation makes us better receivers and givers of God’s unfailing Love, more personally grateful for that Love and increases our recognition of who is walking in God’s Love and who is not which is critical in the process of qualifying a potential mate, friend or business associate.
This exercise and similar ones like it also help us realize our indestructibility in Christ (the LAST thing Satan wants us to know), and plucks out every form of fear from the root. It helps us walk in the Spirit-led power, love and a sound mind afforded us by The Blessing of being a Child of God.
“There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love.” I John 4:18
Love is not just an action word. Love is who God Our Father is shaping and molding us to be…Love is who we are. ♥♥♥
Many of us are empaths. We have the gift of being able to fully identify with people and situations without necessarily knowing all the details.
Some refer to this as discernment and this applies also, but for the purpose of illustration I’m going to stick with describing this gift as empathy because to me, there’s a difference between knowing or determining a thing and feeling that thing deep down inside.
Empaths see, hear, feel and experience things at a deeper level than many expect or even believe is possible. We can walk into a room and know exactly what page everybody is on without so much as having a conversation; it’s that intense!
Funerals can be especially hard for empaths to attend because even though we may not personally know the deceased or any of the family members attending, the waves of their combined grief can be daunting.
We as empaths like to stay to ourselves and are especially choosy about who visits our homes, who we hang out with and who we spend a lot of time with. Negative people don’t just make us feel bad; they make us feel REALLY bad. Sometimes we feel like cry babies, and then we get mad at ourselves for going through what we go through.
Some of us have this gift and don’t even know it (some have had it for YEARS); we don’t understand why we prefer to be alone most of the time and avoid large or noisy crowds. The gift of empathy will either be a blessing or a curse.
Empathy is a blessing to those of us who counsel, help, aid, nurse and minister to others, but it can be a curse that hinders us from our destiny if we are unfamiliar with our gift and undisciplined in managing it.
But once we recognize this gift in us and learn how to distinguish our own feelings from the feelings of others; once we learn to discipline ourselves we can properly decipher what we’re experiencing outside ourselves and manage the gift of empathy for the glory of God.
It’s highly important to unite with others who have this gift of empathy, especially those who are more experienced than ourselves. If you’re an empath, find someone you can mentor and be mentored by as a protege because “iron sharpens iron.” ♥♥♥